I've been studying the women of the Bible for the past month, and this morning I was reading about Abigail. For those of you who aren't familiar with Abigail or her story, refer to 1 Samuel 25:2-42.
If you don't have time to read, here's the story in a nutshell:
- Abigail was the wife of an extremely wealthy man named Nabal, who was also very foolish in his ways.
- David had taken refuge with his men from Saul near the home of Abigail and Nabal. David sent some of his men to ask for food, and Nabal, not realizing who he was insulting, basically spit at the ground and said no.
- One of their servants ran to Abigail and told her what happened, so she hurried and loaded up a caravan to food and gifts for the king without telling her husband. When she arrived where David was, she apologized for her husband's disrespect and asked David to find fault with him, not her. She also asked for forgiveness and reminded him that the Lord would take care of anyone who went against him, thus winning favor with David.
- Afterwards, Abigail went to Carmel, where Nabal and his men had been shearing sheep. She discovered him hosting a banquet, drunk as all get out. Another foolish moment for her husband.
- The next morning, Abigail told Nabal what happened with David, causing his heart to fail. He died 10 days later.
- When David found out about Nabal's death, he asked Abigail to marry him.
Now that you know the story, here's what I got out of it:
Abigail was an example of Proverbs 18:22:
He who finds a wife finds a good things, and receives favor from the Lord.
However, it was also obvious that their marriage was an example of 2 Corinthians 6:14:
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
It doesn't really say how long Abigail and Nabal were married, but it also doesn't deny that Nabal has been reckless throughout the entire marriage. If it weren't for Abigail having his back all that time, I'm pretty sure Nabal would have been gone a long time before. Why? Because Abigail, despite her husband's foolishness, was still being the favor that God called her to be as a wife. And I honestly think that was what made David want to marry her.
I'm pretty sure there's no argument as to why they are an example of 2 Corinthians 6:14 - their actions speak volumes about that. But you have to think about how Abigail felt. I'm sure she woke up everyday thinking, "Why did my life have to turn out this way? I'm married to a man who isn't trying to cover me the way I'm trying to cover him. He values his money, food, and drink over me, and almost had me, our servants, and everyone around us killed!" That's not a way to live; however, Abigail did her best in the situation that she was in.
I think that's what a lot of women are guilty of doing - doing the best we can with what we have. A lot of us are like Abigail - married to/living with/sleeping with(let's just be real) a man that we know is essentially a Nabal reborn, yet we continue to push through it, in hopes that that last incident won't happen again, or he'll learn our true value one day, or he'll just come to his senses and do what he has to do. And sometimes that does happen.
But most times, it doesn't. Even Abigail had to lift her hands and say, "Lord, whatever happens, happens. I can't do this all by myself anymore." And God gave her a second chance at life AND love.
For those of you who aren't married to Nabal, be glad! If he's not trying to step up and be the man you need him to be, leave him to his own devices and find a man who will.
For those who are married to him, ask God for guidance. If you know you are being his favor and doing the best you can, talk to God and ask him what your next move should be. You may wind up having to make an Abigail move, you never know. I'm not pro-divorce, neither is God, but I'm pretty sure God wouldn't punish a woman for running for her life and sanity, away from a man who could potentially be her ruin.
And lastly, ladies, I want you to remember who you are. You are a daughter of the King - Not Elvis, not B.B. King, not Lebron AKA King James....you are the daughter of the Most High God! He loves you. He loves you so much!
He wants to see your succeed! He wants to see you thrive! He wants you to find the husband He created specifically for you!
Have a blessed week, in Jesus' name!
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