Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Come and See Me at 2AM?


You all know that I'm a HUGE music fan, and I always seem to find odd similarities in songs from time to time.

Well folks....I've found yet another one. But this one's pretty obvious, if you ask me.

PARTYNEXTDOOR came out with a song entitled, "Come Over," a couple of months ago that I actually liked. I'm not a huge fan of slow songs, but this one caught my attention. Not to mention that I love PND, so I'll always give his music a chance.

You can check that song out below:



I was bumping that song for a long time, until my brain was set on fire by SZA's song, "2AM," which you can check out below:



Epic, am I right?!

I honestly can't really decide which one is my favorite!

They're talking about the same thing, yet it's being presented from both sides  - SO COOL!!

What do you think about the songs? Which version do you like better? Am I just a stupid girl with no taste in music? Let me know in the comments!

Sunday, August 21, 2016

Weekly Blessings: Week 67: The Favor

http://www.rodalena.com/2012/03/23/my-biblical-heroes-abigail/

Good morning!

I've been studying the women of the Bible for the past month, and this morning I was reading about Abigail. For those of you who aren't familiar with Abigail or her story, refer to 1 Samuel 25:2-42.

If you don't have time to read, here's the story in a nutshell:

  • Abigail was the wife of an extremely wealthy man named Nabal, who was also very foolish in his ways.
  • David had taken refuge with his men from Saul near the home of Abigail and Nabal. David sent some of his men to ask for food, and Nabal, not realizing who he was insulting, basically spit at the ground and said no.
  • One of their servants ran to Abigail and told her what happened, so she hurried and loaded up a caravan to food and gifts for the king without telling her husband. When she arrived where David was, she apologized for her husband's disrespect and asked David to find fault with him, not her. She also asked for forgiveness and reminded him that the Lord would take care of anyone who went against him, thus winning favor with David.
  • Afterwards, Abigail went to Carmel, where Nabal and his men had been shearing sheep. She discovered him hosting a banquet, drunk as all get out. Another foolish moment for her husband.
  • The next morning, Abigail told Nabal what happened with David, causing his heart to fail. He died 10 days later.
  • When David found out about Nabal's death, he asked Abigail to marry him.
Now that you know the story, here's what I got out of it:

Abigail was an example of Proverbs 18:22:

He who finds a wife finds a good things, and receives favor from the Lord.

However, it was also obvious that their marriage was an example of 2 Corinthians 6:14:

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

It doesn't really say how long Abigail and Nabal were married, but it also doesn't deny that Nabal has been reckless throughout the entire marriage. If it weren't for Abigail having his back all that time, I'm pretty sure Nabal would have been gone a long time before. Why? Because Abigail, despite her husband's foolishness, was still being the favor that God called her to be as a wife. And I honestly think that was what made David want to marry her. 

I'm pretty sure there's no argument as to why they are an example of 2 Corinthians 6:14 - their actions speak volumes about that. But you have to think about how Abigail felt. I'm sure she woke up everyday thinking, "Why did my life have to turn out this way? I'm married to a man who isn't trying to cover me the way I'm trying to cover him. He values his money, food, and drink over me, and almost had me, our servants, and everyone around us killed!" That's not a way to live; however, Abigail did her best in the situation that she was in.

I think that's what a lot of women are guilty of doing - doing the best we can with what we have. A lot of us are like Abigail - married to/living with/sleeping with(let's just be real) a man that we know is essentially a Nabal reborn, yet we continue to push through it, in hopes that that last incident won't happen again, or he'll learn our true value one day, or he'll just come to his senses and do what he has to do. And sometimes that does happen.

But most times, it doesn't. Even Abigail had to lift her hands and say, "Lord, whatever happens, happens. I can't do this all by myself anymore." And God gave her a second chance at life AND love.

For those of you who aren't married to Nabal, be glad! If he's not trying to step up and be the man you need him to be, leave him to his own devices and find a man who will. 

For those who are married to him, ask God for guidance. If you know you are being his favor and doing the best you can, talk to God and ask him what your next move should be. You may wind up having to make an Abigail move, you never know. I'm not pro-divorce, neither is God, but I'm pretty sure God wouldn't punish a woman for running for her life and sanity, away from a man who could potentially be her ruin.

And lastly, ladies, I want you to remember who you are. You are a daughter of the King - Not Elvis, not B.B. King, not Lebron AKA King James....you are the daughter of the Most High God! He loves you. He loves you so much!

He wants to see your succeed! He wants to see you thrive! He wants you to find the husband He created specifically for you!

Amen!

Have a blessed week, in Jesus' name!

If you'd like to nominate someone for the "Faith Features series or share something (Bible verse, a song, or a message...anything!) that God has put on your heart or have a question or comment you would like to share, you're more than welcome! If you're interested in writing a post for "Weekly Blessings," offering up a topic suggestion, get in touch with me via email and I'll make sure to get back with you!!

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Fashionmia Wishlist

Hello there! I'm back with another blog post!

Now you guys know I'm not a huge fashion person, but I do love a good deal! That's why today I have decided to bring you guys my fall fashion wishlist, brought to you by Fashionmia!

What is Fashionmia, you ask? Fashionmia is an online store that offers cheap clothing that looks like a million bucks! Tops, bottoms, and dresses for women are what you can find here!

So now on to the clothes!!







And there you have it! Just a few pieces that are available on Fashionmia! I really liked these pieces because they express my personal style, are easy to dress up or down, and allow me to be professional, yet still extremely comfortable!

Have you checked out any of the fashions from Fashionmia? What were some of your picks?

*This post was sponsored by Fashionmia. All opinions are my own.

Sunday, August 14, 2016

Weekly Blessings:Week 66:Silent Sunday

Good morning!

Today I just want to leave you with a few songs that I love that I thought would help encourage you and get you through the week!


Hillsong United - Oceans


The Walls Group - Love on the Radio


Jessica Reedy - Hallelujah


Mali Music - Yaweh



Men of Integrity - He will Work it Out


I hope these songs bless you as much as they have blessed me. Have a great week!



Monday, August 8, 2016

The Nate Parker Marriage Debate: My Take

Hey guys!

This past week, Nate Parker has been a trending topic on Facebook and Twitter. At first I assumed it was because of his upcoming film, Birth of a Nation, which I do plan to see, by the way. But my assumption turned out to be wrong. Dead wrong.

Apparently, people - specifically Black Twitter - is made at Nate because...

He has a white wife. 

Yes, that's what I said - he has a white wife!

http://www.bet.com/celebrities/news/2016/08/07/nate-parker-s-wife.html

According to sources, Nate and his wife have been together since they were in college and recently just celebrated the birth of their fourth child!

People have been saying that his opinion no longer matters, his views on the current state of African American affairs is no longer valid, he's a hypocrite, etc.

What do I have to say to that?

Shut up. Just shut up.

Nate Parker has every right, as a black man, to talk about black issues. And his wife obviously has no issue with him talking about it, so why are we tripping?

That's the problem with the African American race as a whole - we forgot how to stick together!

We talk about how we need unity, but as soon as someone does something we do like.....the stuff hits the fan!

We praise people like Jesse Williams, who isn't fully black. Or Harry Belafonte, who is also married to a white woman for advocating black issues. Some of us still even think Bill Clinton was completely pro-black, even though he made his stance on the African American community crystal clear on the video of him talking with the BLM protestor.



And not only that, but we go off and praise these rappers who really have nothing for us either! Let's be real - a lot of these rappers go out and get a white girl or some racially ambiguous girl whose ethnicity is so vague, we stop caring! Look at their music videos - lighter-skinned girls, white girls, and Puerto Rican girls. THey may throw one or two African American women, but they typically have weaves and are twerking....yeah. So shouldn't we be mad at them too?


Not to mention that we have people like Raven Symone and Bow Wow out here saying they aren't black and folks like Wendy Williams blatantly expressing her ignorance about HBCUs.....but we are just going to sip our tea on that one, huh?

https://imgflip.com/meme/But-Thats-None-Of-My-Business

All I'm saying is, I was more disappointed that Nate Parker was married than him being married to a white woman. As long as he's giving us stories that are vital to our history and his wife isn't out here screaming the N-word and not caring, I'm good.

Leave that man alone!

What are your thoughts on the whole situation? Are you mad that he's married to a white woman? Do you care at all? Tell me your thoughts in the comments below!

Sunday, August 7, 2016

Weekly Blessings: Week 65: Transparency (Part 2)

Good morning!!



Last week we talked about transparency, and I thought I was done...apparently I was wrong! God has been telling me something else and wants me to share!

When we talk about transparency, we typically think about being open and honest with one another, which isn't necessarily wrong; however, one thing that some of us fail to think about is that we also have to be transparent with ourselves.

What does that mean? If I'm talking to someone else about it, I am being real with myself.

Not all the time. Let me explain:

Think about the 12-step program that addicts go through. What is the first step? Admiting that there is a problem and we need help.

Isn't this similar to what we go through when we want to accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior?

Now skip over to step four: Take Inventory. Think about your life - where did you mess up, what did you mess up, why did you mess up? Ask God to show you the condition of your heart and He will reveal yourself to you. Trust me, I know.

So what's my point in this? Some people try to skip telecoms and four.

Have you ever seen or heard someone come out and share their testimony of how God delivered them from something, only to find them in the same mess? Or maybe you've seem those Christians who know they aren't doing right, but are always quick to say, "God knows my heart!"

They obviously have not been honest with themselves. Your friends at church told you it was wrong, your parents told you it was wrong, and the Bible told you it was wrong, but your flesh....your flesh still thinks it's okay.

Why? Because you were honest with everyone but yourself!

You can go to someone and tell them that God saved you from going to jail until you're blue in the face, but if you go home and continue to do it or continue to punish yourself for it, you haven't been honest with yourself.

Go look in the mirror and tell yourself you are:

I'm a liar.
I'm a contractor.
I'm a thief.

But also tell yourself this:

I need God to help me.
God still loves me.


Monday, August 1, 2016

IN THE LOOP Program of Success #ITLCelebrates August 2016 Calendar Challenge!!

Good morning, loves! Happy first day of August!

It's a new month, meaning that it's time to make new goals, experience new things, and enjoy a fresh start!

Typically around this time you hear about new monthly challenges that urge you to do a different activity everyday in celebration of the month. Well today I want to put you on to one of those challenges!


IN THE LOOP Program of Success, an organization that empowers young people to reach their full potential by providing resources that allow them opportunities to gain exposure and explore positive options, is currently hosting an August challenge with the hashtag #ITLCelebrates.

Each day, we will have a new challenge for you. Whether it be #TuesdayTreat, #ThrowbackThursday, or #FridayFAVS, you're sure to have a good time participating!

So join me and IN THE LOOP Program as we take August by storm with the #ITLCelebrates August Calendar Challenge!

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